3 Things I Understood About The Gospel After My Proposal

Exciting news, well, a month ago I proposed to my girlfriend. She said Yes! Honestly it was a nerve-wracking experience, but it was a tremendous and heart-melting moment. I am grateful that we both agreed to take our relationship to a new stage.

Now that I’m engaged I’ve actually realised that there are aspects of the gospel which have now become more clear to me. It’s amazing what a new phase in life can teach you and how things you thought you once understood start to appear in a new light.  In this post I will explain three biblical aspects of the gospel which i now understand better from the perspective of being engaged.

3 Things i learnt from my proposal

1. The Importance of  regular communication with God

The first and maybe even the most important aspect of an engagement is communication. The way i see communication relating to the gospel is through the idea of prayer. When i now consider how much I regularly communicate to my fiance I then realise that prayer with God should also not be be overlooked.

I absolutely love this quote when it comes to prayer:

[otw_shortcode_quote border_style=”bordered”]Prayer is the link that connects us with Christ; or, as it is sometimes stated, “Prayer is the key that opens heaven.” Few realize the mighty power there is in the prayer of faith. “The prayer of the humble suppliant Christ presents as His own desire in that soul’s behalf. Every sincere prayer is heard in heaven. It may not be fluently expressed; but it the heart is in it, it will ascend to the sanctuary where Jesus ministers, and He will present it to the Father without one awkward, stammering word, beautiful and fragrant with the incense of His own perfection.” (book: Desire of Ages)[/otw_shortcode_quote]

The quote above is taken from the book Desire of Ages.

As I was thinking and researching about the importance of communication with God I came across these three verses(paraphrased):

  • Luke 11:1. We should ask the Lord to teach us how to pray.
  • Acts 2:46, 47. A church whose members have daily prayer in their homes will always be a growing church.
  • Amos 5:4. There is life in earnest prayer.

2. How God deals with our past

We are products of our past, but we don't have to be prisoners of it - The Purpose Driven Life. Click To Tweet

During our courtship, as a couple we agreed not to keep any important information about our pasts from each other. So by the time we were ready for engagement there were no more ‘skeletons in the closet’ and we moved forward together with a clean slate. The way i see this relating to the gospel is how God deals with every individuals personal past. He is willing to forgive all past sins and would never hold your past against you. Below are some verses I came across regarding the past.

  • Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
  • 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
  • Hebrews 10:17 (KJV) And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more.


3. Preparation For The Future

Whenever i think of the concept of preparing for marriage, the first biblical idea that comes to my mind is preparation for the Coming of Christ. (It’s amazing that even in some passages of the bible we see a marriage theme throughout, for example in Ephesians 5 a bride is being compared to the church)

Below are a few verses (paraphrased) that speak of the coming of Christ:

  • John 14:1-3. Jesus’s promise to come again.
  • Acts 1:9-11. He will come in person as He went.
  • Revelation 1:7. He will come in clouds visible to all.

Below is a great quote regarding preparation for the second coming of Christ.

[otw_shortcode_quote border_style=”bordered”]Paul teaches that it is sinful to be indifferent to the signs which are to precede the second coming of Christ. Those guilty of this neglect he calls children of the night and of darkness. He encourages the vigilant and watchful with these words: “But ye, brethren, are not in darkness, that that day should overtake you as a thief. Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night, nor of darkness. Therefore let us not sleep, as do others; but let us watch and be sober.”[/otw_shortcode_quote]

The quote above is taken from the book The Great Controversy.

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If you have any questions or comments please comment below. Thanks for reading.  If we get enough people interested in knowing what I did during the proposal then I’ll happily create a post about it. In the meantime here is a pic of the proposal moment.

Proposal pic


  1. Great suggestions. I never really thought about focusing on my engagement in terms of spiritual. I guess I got caught up in the excitement. However, praying now is a good start.

    1. Thanks Jennifer! I understand what you mean about the excitement, i think it’s inevitable haha. I am just really happy that I was able to see glimpses of the gospel through our relationship & proposal.

  2. Great post! It’s amazing how experiences can impact perspective. And I’m sure another dimension to your understanding will be added once you are married!

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